Dear A Dominatrix

by A Dominatrix

August 28, 2003

  

To my sissy sluts: I know that you have been reviewing the Rules in 'A Dominatrix Diary' but just remember, when you read anything written by me you must be wearing something very feminine (I love sissies in a bra) and of course you must be masturbating vigorously while maintaining strict control over your orgasms.

Don't go out today without something on that declares your sissy nature, if only to yourself.

Now for the letters.

'Cruel Cat' asks about how a woman can have a sissy slave while maintaining a non-sissy boy friend. Please see the 'Reader Comment' for this series dated: 8-28-03.

Dear Cruel Cat:

You have an interesting dilemma which is not as uncommon as you may think. A great many woman want a sissy slave but they do not want to give up their more ordinary romantic attachment to a particular male. Naturally, as in all aspects of life, situation and circumstances play a significant part in determining what choices are available to you.

My first suggestion is to direct your attention to your relationship with your boyfriend. As one who has very little tolerance for male 'prerogatives', I would be inclined to explore further the possibility of feminizing him. Frankly, he sounds way too arrogant for my taste, but more importantly his interest in having 'access' to your sissy bespeaks a greater interest in feminization than he may be willing to admit (even to himself).

This exploration can take the form of direct inquiry or you can begin to condition his sexual satisfaction upon his acceptance of feminization play. 'Feminization conditioning' has been described by many writers but, in its most simple terms, it involves exploiting the male's intense focus on his cock and building an association between feminization and sexual excitement. It requires a clear, dominant focus on the part of the woman and a desire to take complete control of the male's sex life. In particular; sex play, masturbation and orgasm for the male can only occur at the complete discretion of the woman who then demands that the male take on some form of femininity in connection with the erotic circumstance.

However, if you are convinced that your boyfriend cannot be manipulated in this fashion (or it just does not appeal to you) and you are committed to the relationship, then you must accept the fact that he will be an ongoing factor in any relationship you develop with a sissy. You say that you don't want to share your sissy with your boyfriend but, clearly, you are sharing at least some of the power in your relationship with him. If this continues to be the case then you may have no alternative but to allow your boyfriend to have access to your slave. If you are concerned about the possibility that he may become jealous, then you truly are relinquishing a great deal of control and you must come to terms with this fact.

The last, and perhaps the most exciting possibility is that you keep your sissy secretly. This is not as difficult as it may seem at first, but of course it depends upon the circumstances of your relationship with your boyfriend. Do live you live together? How much time do you spend together? How much time can you spend enslaving and feminizing a submissive male? In this case, anything is possible since there are so many sissies and potential sissies out there who would be willing to give themselves over to you under any terms you may dictate.

As an example, just look at the 'Reader Comments' for my various writings at this site or the large number of pay sites that are devoted to sissification and feminization. While I have known many women who enjoy the notion of having a sissy slave, the truth is that there are a great many more males who are need of such enslavement. The law of supply and demand is very much in the woman's favor.

It remains for you, Ms. Cruel Cat, to develop a set of criteria (a job description, if you will) for such a relationship, in which case I would advise you to be very choosy. I believe it is possible to find a sissy slave who meets every your every need. Appearance, age, financial resources, conditions of contact and service should be at your discretion. You may decide that you want a slave who is already completely feminized or you may want the thrill of establishing your own program of feminization for your submissive male. If you have the time and the inclination for daily contact, then a sissy can be found to serve you in this manner. If you can only be available once or twice a month, then a sissy will be your slave for those limited times and be very thankful indeed for those crumbs of your attention.

Good luck, thanks for writing.

Sincerely,

Katherine

  

  

  

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