Dear A Dominatrix

by A Dominatrix

  

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Even though I have not been writing about my experiences lately, I do look in on the site and I read all the comments on my contributions with interest. A recent comment (dated 8-15-03) on the 'Princess' Appointment' series was written by a woman asking advice about the role of humiliation as she begins to feminize her submissive husband. I strongly suggest that you, the reader, stop for a moment and read Barbara's letter now.

This very well written piece raises some wonderful questions of philosophy and method regarding issues of domination and feminization. It make me think that it might be entertaining to produce a series as an advice column, using the 'Reader Comments' link conveniently provided by the very excellent, Crystal's Storysite

The first rule (ah, always the rules) of such a thing, is that the readers' contributions are at least 50% of the amusement value. Barbara and I were certainly amused by her husband's willingness to be a sissy and I don't doubt that the sissies who read her letter find themselves reaching for their hard, wet 'clitties'.

I plan to respond to questions or expressions of opinion which serve the goal of being exciting, amusing or useful to a dominant woman and which sets a proper tone for the sissies who read it. If written by a male, an appropriate question or comment will always show the proper respect and make it clear the extent to which he is a sissy. If written by a woman, the comment need only be polite. The right question will often reveal the right answer.

I will look at the 'Reader Comments' link to this series regularly and, if there are some good questions, I will write a response. All my writing in response to comments will be posted as chapters in the series 'Dear A Dominatrix'. Just to keep things from being confusing, I will never make a comment or respond directly in the 'Comment' link for this series.

Finally, 'The Rules' apply. The sissies who read this must always be wearing some explicitly feminine article of clothing. They must be massaging their 'clitties' but. . . their ejaculations are either under the complete control of a woman or they are on a rigid schedule. Sissies who read this series must periodically review 'The Rules' which appear at the beginning of each chapter of 'A Dominatrix Diary'.

To respond to Barbara:

I have several friends who have had similar questions when they began, for the first time, to turn a male into a sissy.

It seems as though Barbara has established an effective framework for her husband and now she is asking herself two questions. How feminine does she wish him to be and how much of his sissification should be revealed?

When I say effective framework, Barbara has reached a stage with her husband where he has no choice. If she gave the order, he would put on a tutu and pirouette down the street. But, I believe it is possible have privacy while, at the same time, plunging deeply into the exciting world of forced feminization. And, though I love the rush of taking my sissy public, it is also clear that the desire for secrecy is a well of thrills. Thus the vice (as in clamp) of humiliation.

Humiliation is an activity well practiced by the woman on the male, in private. Alone with his mistress, the submissive male is required to show, to the fullest measure, his raw desire to be a slave. Barbara illustrates this point very well. Now, in private, a woman can begin to speak about the extent of the sissy's helplessness

She can require him to be a fully feminized sissy maid or she can have him naked, on all fours, following her around, to be sat upon as needed. In each instance, she can provide the amused commentary, which is the essence of humiliation. The conversation can be about the current state of affairs or it could include speculation and a review of plans for his further discomfiture.

'Honey, I'd like something to drink. Why don't you trot over to the bar and pour me a glass of that zin. Yes, I know you've been standing in those six inch heels for hours but I must tell you, the practice has done you so much good. You're taking such sweet mincing steps and your ass is rotating nicely around your hips. When we go shopping later, I expect to see some carry over. Every time I look at you I expect you to do something to remind us both that you're my sissy slave. Is that understood?'

There can be a discussion in preparation for the outing.

'The tight jeans look wonderful, darling, just a touch of panty line. Yes I know they're a little short, but I don't agree with you that they look like capris. Anyway, you have such a nice ass and such nice legs that it's a shame not to show them off. And they go so well with that tight tee shirt. Mmmmm, your nipples are really sticking out. I can put these clamps on them with no trouble. How's that?

'I think a bit of make-up is required today, dear. No, it's no use begging, even though you are so cute licking my shoe like that. Right now I have something fairly understated in mind but I might be tempted to give you a more exotic treatment. No eyeliner, now aren't you relieved, just a bit of mascara. A touch of color on those cheeks. No dear, it's practically invisible. And then of course some gloss for those hot sissy lips.'

There is a tension between the excitement of secrecy and the high of revelation or possible revelation. A dominant woman can load a sissy with all manner of implicitly feminine accoutrement and then speculate with him about making those things explicit. The degree to which the woman wishes to pull back the curtain on her little slut is strictly up to her.

Many sissies respond intensely to this kind of treatment and, done well, it is most prized by dominant women. Perhaps this is because humiliation is the least mechanical of all domination techniques requiring an agile mind with a sense of humor on the part of the woman and ultimate submissive abandonment by the male.

Walking a piece of hot, sissy candy down a moderately busy sidewalk is a great kick but, humiliation requires no props. A well placed comment, as a waitress is taking one's order in a restaurant, regardless of the under garment, can cause a sissy to pucker like an anemone.

Which makes me think of something else that will be discussed later.

Sincerely,

Katherine

  

  

  

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