Hahahaha!! Whatever pal, but you know I'm pulling for Cain I rellay hope he get the nomination. I can guarantee President Obama knew that China was a nuclear power, and who the President of Uzbekistan was. But that's the same old bullshit conservative song and dance, it's everyone else fault that you're all ill-knowledged, ignorant, and just plain buffoonishly stupid.  Yeah, I guess it was the  liberal media  slinging mud when he didn't have a clue to what went on in Libya. LOL!!

Shame on you!
Silvia.

Not good at all. Should go and own up to family et al if you feel that blessed to now be alone to do as you will. Tsk Tsk!!!

This is a sad, sad, story. I have read the comments on this piece and I agree with most of the comments. I wish that this does not happen to anyone. I also hope that this serves as an eyeopener for many of us.. wanting our way or no way....
It is one of the reasons I am still a closeted CD and put my fantasies to paper instead of acting them out.
GOD bless, Josie

I have never married (I am now 43) because I told every girl that I have loved that I crossdress, none of them coped very well but some tried. (They have all been true to me because not one of them has told anybody else). How can you enter in to marriage with somebody when you haven’t opened your heart and told them your inner desires?

I feel sick..........   Many of us have wives that can't face the situation......  They have to be respected......  If you can live with the consequences of your actions in the way that you indicate,  you should take the same path as your wife did.

This is a sad and tragic story if it is true as claimed.  It does leave me with a heavy heart- for both the writer and his deceased wife.
 Suicide is a result of feeling helpless and hopeless. If the writer allowed his need to be his feminine self to reach such epic proportions in his wife's life that brought her to that state of hoplessness- then he is to be comdemned as immoral and unfeeling.
  At the same time, we all know the drive to bring to life our internal female gender by crossdressing and cross living. The wife apparently didn't know where to reach out for help despite that counseling help available all over.  She should have gone for that help before the despair set in.  Where was her support network of female relatives and friends?  Yet perhaps she could not reveal her dilemma because she was ashamed and bidden to silence by her husband.
   This should not have happened.  Our need to crossdress can be very strong but the reality of the depression of the wife which had to be obvious I would think to the writer should have made  him more concerned about her - rather than about his own interests in dressing as a woman.  
    Your statements of relief at your wife's passing are repugnant and disgusting.  They do reveal your lack of feeling for her which ultimately is what killled her- not your crossdressing.
     You lack of mourning for her is awful. You have some soul searching to do my friend.
Mandee

the story is intresting but said his wife didnot understand what a way to go but he seems to have no compassion

Hi Angela. My name is Barbara. I am transsexual having gone through transition in 1969. I read your story and find it very ominous, but altruistic. In condemning the other critiques except for one, the situation you portray here has happened in some situations I have read about.

The husband was not selfish in that he openly stated his desire to his wife, and continually expressed his love for her. The wife could not handle this situation and took the only course she believed available to her.

The wife in commiting this act was not selfish, either. She had done this to give her husband the freedom, in her eyes, that he needed to be himself.

I would not worry what others say about it not worthy of your talents.

There are case studies on record that show some wives incapable of handling their husband's wish to crossdress. Some even recorded suicides by the wife to give their husbands freedom to live an act as they chose by crossdressing.

I myself, think this is a good story and shows the dark side of an otherwise normal relationship.

Thank you for bringing situations like this to forefront.

Barb

an appaling story which debases story site. it should be removed!

This story rings true to me!  It is a tragedy when both partners are caught in the gender trap and one of them gets the courage to break out that the other has this severe reaction.  My first marriage was to a person very like this and she was bi-polar (manic depressive).  I fault the early childhood and the repressive methods used on children.  It is why the last 1/3 of my life is devoted to solving the gender problem not at the personal level, but at the social engineering level.  Mates who can share freely aren't restricted in their emotional growth and both have the opportunity to be fully human.  It is this freedom to grow which makes for a better society.  Of course men and women envy each other and they would be happier if they could overtly realize it and enter into a contract for mutual growth.

What a truly selfish person!  Your way or no way!  you didn't love your wife just your self.

When I saw a new piece by Angela posted I was excited, expecting another true life adventure.

What I got was something very disturbing.

As a piece of fiction, I find it evokes strong feelings in me. Some sympathy for both the wife's and the crossdressing husband's points of view, a sadness at the tragic ending of someone's life, outraged at the destruction of the note and the callousness of the closing statements. A good story evokes emotion, good or bad, and this one does so in a brief fashion.

As another true life "adventure", as the first few lines seem to bill it,I find it utterly horrible. The exultation of the writer at being "free" to pursue his desires and the joy found in the inheritance of his suicided wife's feminine possessions turns my stomach. I also wonder at the real life legality of destroying the suicide note. I would truly fear such a person for those are marks of a disturbed soul and mind.

It is also entirely possible the intent of the story was not how it comes across. Though the bright expressions of personal release from his perceived limitations of freedom far outweigh the generally expected expressions of grief, sorrow, guilt, and mourning.

If the piece is indeed a work of fiction, an advisory to that extent may be warranted somewhere outside the story to avoid harassment from outraged readers.

If it is a true account of actual happenings, I would suggest some counseling.

Angela, It is sad, but true to life, some wives and others that cannot accept themselves leave, one way or the other, the weakness was hers, starting with her own weak self identity.  That last note heaped guilt where she thought it should be, even then failing to take responsibility for her actions.  Why some people accept the tg immediately, others warm to it, could take pages to diagnose.  I've found those that can't, cannot accept part of themselves either.  Hope this isn't too close to life. Joanna

This is an ugly story and the protagonist is utterly selfish and self-centered.  Left a sour taste in my mouth.